Wedding cake - the best tips & tricks


The proposal was accepted, the day of the wedding is set - now all that's missing is the perfect wedding cake for happiness. And sometimes it really has it all! Many couples despair at the very thought of having to commit to one cake. Tastes are different and what the bridal couple likes, the guests don't have to like for a long time.  formal dresses for women

The choice of shape, color and decoration is also not easy. Men and women often have very different tastes here. But of course the wedding cake cannot be missing on the most beautiful day in life. It is one of the most important parts of the wedding celebration. It should not only look good, but also taste good and, moreover, be integrated into the festivities.

The traditional cutting of the cake is a must for every newlyweds. By the way, the wedding cake is the absolute crowning glory after dinner and every guest waits for the legendary presentation of it.

But does it really have to be a cake or can it be more individual? In order not to melt into self-doubt later, you should think in advance what kind of cake you want to put on. For some bridal couples a rough draft is sufficient, for others the shape, taste and decoration is discussed down to the smallest detail.

Often the appearance of the cake is also a woman's affair. The husbands love to give up this task and just want to have a say in the taste. So you both have the matter in hand and can conjure up a dreamy wedding cake according to your wishes.

In general, it is worth investing a little more time in planning in order to get what you wanted in the end. After all, nobody wants to have compromises on the table, especially when the cake is presented in front of everyone.

Regardless of whether you already have in mind exactly which cake you want or whether your dream cake has yet to be designed, today we will reveal a few tips and tricks on how to get the wedding cake right.

A classic wedding cake or do you prefer something individual?

The classic, multi-tiered wedding cake is a highlight for many at their own wedding. It has to be at least five floors to look good and to feed the many guests at a big party. Sugar, marzipan, the color white, pearl patterns and colorful sugar flowers are common decorative elements and add a touch of glamor to culinary enjoyment.

However, weddings are no longer necessarily classic. If you want to design it individually, you can rely on themed weddings and choose a suitable wedding cake accordingly.

There are all kinds of funny and unusual shapes. A pair of pumps, a thick bow, a crown or intertwined wedding rings not only look good, they also taste great after being cut.

In addition to the motto wedding cakes, there is also the option of serving tarts, tartlets, cupcakes, muffins or petit fours as a substitute for a wedding cake. Small, colorful works of art are stacked on the tables, are lovingly decorated and finally something completely different in contrast to the well-known wedding cake. Your guests will be amazed!

Incidentally, it is not just optically an unforgettable feast for the eyes. Different small bites also offer the possibility of offering different flavors.

What does the choice of wedding cake have to do with the location?

Many bridal couples do not even think about the fact that the choice of wedding cake should match the location. Why is it important?

Imagine the following scenario: You want to have a glamorous party on the beach in Bali. It's sandy, a bit windy, 30 degrees in the shade and you've chosen a cream cake. It is clear that it will not last long in the hot temperatures. It melts away faster than you can see and you only had a brief moment in the original state.

Before you order a wedding cake, you should discuss with the location whether it is possible to store it in a cool place there. Proper serving is also important, because if something goes wrong, all the effort is in vain. In addition, it should be able to be cooled again in between, in case it is not completely eaten and should make its way into the home refrigerator.

In many locations such as a restaurant, a hotel or even a club, a large cold room should not be a problem. However, things get more complicated if you get married in a rather unusual place. On the beach, at the lake or on a small ship, there is only limited storage space for your wedding cake. So you should inform yourself about this before you embark on a five-tier cream cake.

To the confectioner or do you prefer to bake yourself?

That is the question of all questions! Sure, you save a bit of money if you don't go to the pastry chef, but is it really worth it? Baking a wedding cake that isn't exactly a sheet cake is pretty tough. Not only do you need patience, you also need time. If you have someone in your circle of friends who is good at baking, you are welcome to ask them for help, but should also accept if they say no. Baking a wedding cake is not an easy task.

Baking the cake yourself is a bit of a challenge because there are a few more things floating around in your head before the wedding than just the cake. If something doesn't work, for example the cake collapses, you often don't have time to find an adequate replacement. The tears are inevitable

However, if you can bake really well and want to make a project out of it with your girlfriend, for example, if you have enough time and like to try things out, you should grab baked goods and cake tins yourself. Nothing is as beautiful as a homemade cake, because a lot of love is lived here. Nevertheless, it makes sense to bake the cake at least 1-2 times in advance as a test.

However, if you have two left hands in your baking and prefer to be on the safe side, you can rely on the pastry shop. Even if it can get more expensive, the pastry chef offers you a great service. As a rule, it not only offers a good-looking cake that you have put together according to your wishes, but also a free trial dinner, good advice and a very nice decoration. You can save yourself the stress of baking yourself.

What does the choice of wedding cake have to do with the season?

Just like the location, the time of year has a lot to do with whether a wedding cake is well received or not. The main question is whether your dream cake can withstand the hot summer temperatures of over 30 degrees when it is served. Many a couple had a nasty surprise when they decided on an ice cream cake and it melted in midsummer before the last guest could get hold of a piece.

Even cream, heavy buttercream and Co. are not necessarily something for hot days. Although they only melt to a limited extent, they are heavy in the stomach. It is better to rely on seasonal fruits, which are also reasonably priced and embellish some cake creations.

But it is best to speak to your pastry chef or catering service to find out what is possible and how your wish can be implemented.

When does a wedding cake have to be ordered?

As with all the other items on your to-do list, the same rule applies to the wedding cake: the earlier the better. As early as possible, you should think about the filling, the taste, the batter, the look and the decorations. Only those who have a concrete idea in mind will later get what they have in mind. The decision is easy for many women because they often already have a dream cake in their head.

But the confectioner can also help if you don't have an answer for everything. He knows how the individual components can best be coordinated with one another. So don't worry if the dream cake has not yet formed in your head. The confectioner is at your side with words and deeds.

You should make the appointment for the discussion of the wedding cake as early as possible. One to two months in advance, the subject of cake should be addressed and a pastry chef should be found. So you have enough time to fulfill all your wishes.

Also plan enough time for the rehearsal meals. The pastry chef may not have many free appointments, so you should take care of them early enough. If you get married in spring, it is best to make an appointment earlier, as many couples get married at this time of the year. Incidentally, the order is only binding once it has been signed.

How do I find the right pastry chef?

Listen to advice from friends, acquaintances, relatives and work colleagues. Some of them must have some funny stories up their sleeves about what went wrong at their wedding. But if a pastry shop is recommended to you and you trust the person, you can confidently add them to your list.

You should choose up to three different pastry shops and go to them with a specific proposal for the wedding cake. So you can get the best price-performance ratio, because the price differences are usually very large.

You should choose the pastry chef you find likeable, who gives you good advice and who makes specific suggestions about prices. Let me give you a final price including transport costs and service so that you don't get a nasty surprise later. Those who keep all of these points will soon see their dream cake in front of them.

When you've finally decided on a pastry chef who not only has the service, but also the price, off you go. You can find ideas about the appearance of the cake in wedding magazines, on the Internet or you can draw your own. The pastry chef also has photos of his magnificent creations ready and will be at your side with ideas and advice. The total work of art will soon be ready to eat.

Another wedding cake tip from us: Make sure that the confectioner's offer also includes delivery, assembly of the wedding cake and the étagère. This ensures that the cake does not have to be set up by someone else, as a lot can go wrong.

Remember to check whether your location already has a contract confectioner. At many locations, this is even stated in the rental agreement so that you are bound to it. Of course, you can still hire another pastry chef, but then you will have to pay double the costs. But a contract confectioner can also do a good job. Often they have a lot of practice in baking wedding cakes and so you don't have to worry.

How much cake do I need for a wedding?

If you pay attention to how much of the cake you can eat yourself during the test dinner, you will be able to estimate more easily later how much your guests will eat of it. You can also benefit from the fact that you already have a concrete idea of ​​your wedding cake. Then the pastry chef can better plan how many pieces will have to be used later.

The size of the wedding cake depends mainly on the number of guests. As a rule, 1-2 pieces per person are expected. You should also keep in mind that after the big wedding dinner there is not much space in the stomach for cake and cake, because your guests will simply be full at some point.

It also depends on which appearance and which shape is planned. It also plays a role whether the wedding cake should be the only dessert or whether there is an extra cake buffet with muffins, cupcakes or other desserts.

Your pastry chef will advise you which size is right for you. Basically you should have too much cake on hand rather than too little so that nobody goes empty-handed.

What shapes are there for a cake?

Before you start decorating the cake, you have to choose a shape together with the confectioner. There are endless ways to build the cake. With a specific idea, you go to the confectioner, who will suggest the basic shape of your cake.

There are classic round and square cakes, but also heart, pillow or triangular shapes. The Topsy Turvy shape is currently very popular, as it comes across as modern and slightly slanted.

Etageres, which can separate the individual parts of the wedding cake from each other, are also popular. So every single deck of the cake can be designed differently or offer a different flavor.

But it is important to listen to the advice of the specialist. Not only the visual design is decisive when choosing the shape, but also the consistency. It mainly decides which forms are possible and which are not.

Which flavors are there?

There is even more choice when it comes to the flavor than the shape. In principle, you can choose any cake and pie that you like, as long as it can withstand the conditions on site (solar radiation, heat, etc.) and can be cooled accordingly on site if necessary.

The flavors are almost endless. It gets easier if you choose a direction. There are buttercream cakes, cream cakes, fruit cakes, but also poppy cakes or chocolate cakes. The most common wedding cakes are buttercream and cream cakes. If you know the direction, you can choose fruits, your favorite chocolate and everything else to make it tasty.

How can the wedding cake be decorated?

Here it depends on the creativity of the bride and groom. Some couples want a simple cake that should mainly taste good. Other couples love the big appearance with a spectacular cake. No matter what your wish is, it can be implemented. There are no limits to your imagination.

Whether in dark, pastel or light colors, with a color gradient, in an ombre look or in one color, it's up to you. Icing is an absolute trend right now. The cake is sprayed with a wafer-thin layer of fondant, which makes it shine and look very classy.

Decorations such as flowers made from fondant, icing or marzipan are popular, as are edible flowers. Pearl patterns or running chocolate, ribbons and fruits, but also butterflies made from fondant or marzipan are popular.

The top of the cake is always something special. There is often a small cake figure here, symbolizing the bride and groom. Here, too, you have endless possibilities: Either you let the pastry chef make a bridal couple from sugar, fondant or marzipan or you choose one of the ready-made bridal couples from his range. In the meantime, however, you can also order many unusual cake figures on the Internet.

The individual cake figure from the confectioner can be adapted to your wishes and look like you. The individual cake figure is ephemeral, but a figure made of clay or plastic lasts forever. There are clay figures sitting in cars, with funny mottos, but also very classic and stylish. Here you should listen to your gut instinct and take what you like.

What does a wedding cake cost?

The cost of a wedding cake can vary widely. There is no price limit and there are no limits to your imagination. Depending on how elaborately designed and big the cake is and whether the filling is seasonal, you may have to pay different costs.

The price is significantly influenced by the baked goods used. The more exclusive the ingredients and the more elaborate the outside of the cake, the more expensive it will be. You will notice this especially when real vanilla is used, because it is quite expensive. Decoration can also be costly, depending on the effort. For example, roses made from sugar cost around 10 euros each on average. Only roses made from marzipan are more expensive at around 20 euros each. It will be cheaper if you use real flowers as an ornament - best to match your bridal bouquet. But that's all a matter of taste and a cost factor.

When is the best time to serve the wedding cake?

Traditionally, the wedding cake is presented after midnight as the grand finale of the wedding. After the midnight snack, it is driven in, cut and distributed. However, there is a risk here that your guests are already more than full. The previous feasts filled the bellies and often only a small piece of cake fits in. If you don't want that, you can do without dessert and rather serve a wedding cake as dessert.

If you prefer to celebrate in the afternoon and end the evening comfortably for two, for example at a civil wedding , you can also present the wedding cake while drinking coffee.

The wedding cake can also be served unconventionally at a champagne reception. This is how the celebration opens and your guests are doubly happy because they get something very tasty right from the start, if they are guaranteed to be still hungry. Here, finger food-sized cake alternatives such as cupcakes or petit fours are particularly suitable.

If you want to see something of the cake longer, you can have it set up in the dining room at the beginning of the celebration. So everyone has enough time to marvel at the wedding cake and take a photo of it. In addition, everyone knows that there will be cake later and can therefore hold back while eating in order to have room for the cake.

What customs are there for the wedding cake?

A few customs and rituals are entwined around the wedding cake, which many bridal couples take to heart. Whether you want to rely on these customs is of course up to you. If you just want to eat the delicious cake, that's no problem either. Nevertheless, we will introduce you to the three most famous customs for wedding cakes.

Cutting the cake

After the wedding dress, the wedding cake is the highlight of every wedding. It is often presented after the big wedding dinner after midnight. Lots of sparklers, beautiful music and dim lights make them even more spectacular to look at. She is pushed into the darkened wedding hall with a lot of attention and is accompanied by roaring applause. The bride and groom stand up to cut the cake.

Both cut into the cake at the same time with a knife to cut out a piece. Now it depends on where your hands are. The interpretation of the custom says that whoever has the hand up also has the say in marriage. long sleeve formal dresses

Sharing the cake

Then the first piece of cake is divided. The bride and groom share a plate. The bridal couple take turns feeding each other with a fork full of wedding cake. When they have finished eating, the rest of the cake is distributed. At the beginning the bride and groom put the wedding cake on the plate, later this task can be taken over by the staff.

The first floor is frozen

In some regions there is also the following custom: The first floor of the wedding cake remains untouched. Neither the bridal couple nor the staff cut them. It is not eaten on the wedding day, but frozen straight after it has been admired. For the first wedding anniversary, the cake is thawed and the couple can reminisce again. If you choose this variant, it is best to ask the confectioner which type of cake is suitable for freezing.

In our guide you can find out more about various wedding customs .


The engraving of your wedding rings - ideas and sayings for wedding rings

 Engraving wedding rings has been a tradition for centuries and turns them into unique treasures, which symbolize the love of the bride and groom in a very individual way. As a couple, you express your special bond with a personal vow, a quote or a significant date. Since the engraved sayings are inscribed on the inside of the wedding rings, they can also remain a little secret that you always carry with you.  formal dresses online

At AURONIA you have the option to choose between diamond or laser engraving for your wedding ringsAs a wedding couple you can choose from different fonts together and thus also determine the appearance of your very individual promise. Since engraving a wedding ring is very personal, many newlyweds spend a long time thinking about the right words or symbols. We have put together some engraving ideas for you to help you find the perfect quote or the right words for your rings.

A first name or date with meaning

Many couples choose their partner's first name when engraving their wedding rings - sometimes in combination with a date that is of particular importance to the two lovers. This can be, for example, the wedding day itself, but also the date of the meeting or the date of the first kiss. In this case, the groom always carries the name of his future wife with him, while his name is engraved on the women's ring. With this classic engraving you can personalize your rings and at the same time turn them into important memorabilia. If you do take it off, one of your children or grandchildren will surely ask what happened on that special day. Rings with inscribed dates tell stories - sometimes it's the beginning of a story, sometimes it's an important climax,

A symbol is worth a hundred words

If you are not a fan of big words, you will also find the perfect engraving in our wedding ring configuratorFind what you are looking for: AURONIA offers the possibility of simply deciding on a common motif. Maybe you want to express your love through a heart? Or the sign for infinity symbolizes your feelings for each other even better. You can also choose symbols for the wedding ring engraving that express that two good things come together in a marriage: Then, for example, the two hearts entwined or the two connecting rings are the right thing for you. These small but expressive motifs stand for something big that cannot be said with words. Of course, they can also be combined with an oath or a quote. Either way, you and your partner will always know what is meant by this sign of love.

A word or number whose secret only you both know

Sometimes when choosing the perfect engraving for the wedding rings, a single word or number can be enough to describe the deep love that binds the two spouses together. This type of engraving is rather puzzling for outsiders, it usually remains the secret of the bride and groom. For example, you can opt for a wedding ring engraving, which picks up the coordinates of a certain place in your relationship. This could be the place where you first met or where your first kiss took place. But this number can just as well symbolize a place that you both particularly value. Original engravings that are unique can also consist of any other word or number that means something to you as a couple. A common belief with the word “fate” or “God's gift” can be recorded in it, but it could also be an object or a city that was decisive for your relationship in some way. There are no limits to your imagination with our configurator and you can individually choose which inscription on the ring should accompany your partner forever.

Quotes or other sayings for the wedding ring

In order to make the search for the perfect engraving for your wedding rings or engagement rings a little easier, we have collected some ideas for quotes or sayings that can serve as inspiration:

In any case, test whether your ideas fit you. It 's child's play with our wedding ring configurator .

Romantic quotes for your ring

Love has been the central theme of humanity for thousands of years. That is why many authors over the past centuries have thought about what love means for them. Some couples find themselves in the quotations of these famous people and can thus put into words their very own view of what is probably the greatest mystery of mankind. A saying for the wedding ring can either be identical on both pieces of jewelry or consist of two parts that belong together (expressed in the following by the three dots). The wisdom of the one ring is therefore only completed by the other - a beautiful sign of marriage, in which two partners also combine to create something greater.

  • “Love never ceases” 
    1 Corinthians 13: 8
  • "Love is not a solo ... love is a duet." 
    Adalbert von Chamisso
  • "For the world you are somebody ... but for someone you are the world." 
    Erich Fried
  • “The sum of our lives…. are the hours when we love. ” 
    Wilhelm Busch
  • “Love is always right.” 
    Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach
  • "Love is the only thing that grows ... if we waste it." 
    Ricarda Huch
  • "Love is always the beginning of knowledge ... just as fire is the beginning of light." 
    Thomas Carlyle
  • “What a heavenly feeling it is to ... follow your heart.” 
    Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  • "There is a magic inherent in every beginning." 
    Hermann Hesse
  • "You can't ask for loyalty ... loyalty is a gift." 
    Lilli Palmer
  • “The greatest miracle is love.” 
    August Heinrich Hoffmann von Fallersleben
  • "Love is not a destination ... it's just a journey." 
    H. Lawrence
  • "Love is the only thing ... that doubles when you share it." 
    Clemens Brentano
  • "If you are not there ... you are with me." 
    William Shakespeare

German engraving sayings for the wedding ring

The engraving for the wedding ring can also consist of an oath or another message of love that you want to give your partner on the way. These sayings for wedding rings can have a very personal meaning. Only the bride and groom themselves know what promise is behind it. Here, too, there is the option of engraving half of the slogan on the women's ring and the other half on the men's ring in order to reinforce the message.

  • With you every second
  • Most of all, hold on ... to love one another.
  • What we are ... we are together.
  • You are my most beautiful thought.
  • Love is to have arrived.
  • Wanted and found ... connected in love.
  • One at heart
  • my heart Belongs to you
  • Because you are the love of my life
  • Two hearts, one beat
  • With you, wherever you are.
  • I can not be without you.
  • You are my favourite person.
  • I go with you wherever you want.
  • Not nothing without you ... but everything with you.

English engraving sayings for your wedding ring

Many newlyweds like the sound of the English language, which sounds so melodic to our ears. That is why they choose wedding ring sayings in English. Often you will also find beautiful quotes in song lines that might be suitable for your wedding ring - especially if you share a common love song. One sentence from it always stands for the melody that you will always hear when you look at the engraving on the inside of your piece of jewelry. Here are some examples of beautiful English sayings for the perfect wedding ring:

  • Till death do us part
  • Two hearts ... that beat as one
  • Hit my heart
  • Almost unreal
  • Forever ... together
  • Today, tomorrow, always
  • You're beautiful
  • Without doubts
  • My love, my life, my friend
  • And then one day ... there was you
  • Can`t stop the feeling
  • With you I am home
  • Forever together, never apart… maybe in distance, but never in heart
  • Nothing else matters
  • Unbreakable
  • Two rings - one love
  • Forever yours
  • Knowing me ... knowing you

Latin sayings for your wedding ring

A particularly stylish inscription for your wedding ring is a Latin engraving. It is not for nothing that the wisdom of the Romans survived many centuries in tradition. When it comes to love, the sayings from this distant time are often so relevant that the world has not changed a bit since then. These engravings are full of romance and are suitable for all those who believe in the timelessness of love.

  • Tempus fugit - amor manet (time flies - love remains)
  • Mea fortuna (my luck / fate)
  • In omne tempus (For all time)
  • Amantes amentes (lovers are crazy)
  • Semper amemus (we love each other forever)
  • Omnia vincit amor (love conquers everything)

Funny sayings as engravings for the wedding ring

Couples with a great sense of humor sometimes choose an engraving that best reflects their funny side. After all, laughing together is the closest connection between two people, it strengthens every love and can therefore be the decisive cohesion for a relationship. Here are some funny sayings that will make your wedding ring unique: formal dresses with sleeves

  • I want to grow old with you ... but there is no rush.
  • I just want what's best for you ... and that would be me.
  • Forget the butterflies ... I feel the whole zoo when I`m with you.
  • Please put your hand in mine ... look, it fits.

No matter which engraving is supposed to beautify your ring, with our configurator you can try out how the inscription you have chosen will look on the inside of your wedding rings. Take your time and decide together which quote or symbol suits you best. These rings will stay with you for a lifetime and it makes sense to think about choosing the right engraving. Whether funny or classic, as a date or as wisdom, the inscriptions on a wedding ring make it an individual expression of your future marriage.


Duties of groomsmen and bridesmaids - you should pay attention to this and know that

 Groomsmen not only accompany the bride and groom on the wedding day, but ideally for the rest of their lives. That is why newly engaged people often take a long time to think about whom to choose for this important task. Most of them choose someone who is very close to you and whom they trust completely, for example their best friend. Sometimes close family members are also entrusted with this task.

In any case, it is a special honor when the bride and groom ask you if you want to become their best man or maid of honor. But sometimes the joy of having been selected is followed by sheer panic: “What does a best man actually do? Or what do you have to do, what can you do at all? ”We have put together some interesting facts about the how-what-when-and-why of this wonderful tradition.

Groomsmen and bridesmaids - traditions with commitment

Groomsmen and bridesmaids have a lot in common, but they differ in one essential thing. Both take full care of the bride's well-being, but only the maid of honor signs the marriage certificate. Of course, this also applies to male groomsmen. From a purely legal point of view, the function of the maid of honor is very official, but the emotional and practical support of the bride and groom is always in the foreground. This is why it is so important to choose a close reference person for this role.

Origin of the tradition "bridesmaids"

The bridesmaid tradition is very old. Originally, at the wedding, unmarried girls who look similar to the bride should go ahead of the couple in fancy dresses in order to confuse evil spirits and distract them from the next bride. The bridesmaid has retained this protective function to this day, even if it is interpreted quite differently: as a close reference person, the bridesmaid should stand by the bride's side and thus ensure a successful celebration.

Choosing the right bridesmaid

If you as a couple have not yet decided whether and how many bridesmaids you want to choose, it is always helpful to ask yourself: Will this person be able to support me at the wedding party? Do I find her presence positive even in stressful situations? And can the person react flexibly to possible difficulties? A good friend, sister and other close caregiver who meets these requirements and is also patient and creative would be perfect as a bridesmaid. formal dresses for women

Duties of a bridesmaid

As a bridesmaid, it is paramount to keep the bride away from any stress. Of course, this is especially true during the wedding celebration, but as a bridesmaid you can be a help for the certainly stressed bridal couple in advance. Just take a few small errands from them or help, for example, with sending out invitations or creating room decorations for the wedding day. Of course, bridesmaids can also help with choosing the wedding dress. During the wedding itself, they accompany the bride to church or during a free wedding on the way to her future husband. The bridesmaids can wear the train. Compared to the maid of honor, the bridesmaids themselves have a more relaxed task at the celebration: You can of course participate in the planning and execution of wedding games or be available to waiters and guests for questions, otherwise you will mainly be busy celebrating . Experience has shown that the bridesmaids are particularly important when an emergency situation arises. That is why it is always desirable that the evening proceeds in such a way that the bridesmaids' task is mainly to be happy with the newlywed couple.

By the way: the male counterpart to the bridesmaid is the bride's guide. According to tradition, it was his job to protect the bride from earthly dangers, for example from looters. Today he has the same duties as the bridesmaids. 
The groom is a nice alternative for a groom who cannot choose between several best friends as groomsmen.

Origin of the "best man" tradition

Groomsmen were originally even more important than they are today, because without them there was no evidence of a wedding. In uncertain times, for example during the war, sometimes no official documents could be viewed. The best man or maid of honor vouched for the fact that the bride and groom had really said yes. On behalf of the church and the state, the office of "best man" was an important post.

Do you need groomsmen?

Until a few years ago, it was still mandatory to name two witnesses for the legal marriage. In the meantime you can get married without a witness. Only in the Catholic Church is the presence of two witnesses still required. However, you shouldn't forget that in addition to all the joy, a wedding always requires a lot of prepartion and someone close to you can be of great moral support on this important day. At the same time, the maid of honor can then formally testify to the act of marriage. To do this, he must be 18 years old and physically present. Even in times of digitization, it is not enough to connect your best friend via Skype. Apart from the fact that this would also not do justice to the tradition of the best man. After all, in addition to the formalities, a marriage is also a poignant moment that one likes to share.

Choosing the right groomsman

The most important tip is to choose someone you trust one hundred percent. Resistant friendships are ideal, as are close siblings or other relatives. If you are unsure whether the person is the right one, ask yourself: Will I still be friends with this person ten years from now? And in twenty? What does this person do when the worst thing I can imagine for my wedding happens? If someone, despite great panic and bad emotional chaos, is by your side and makes you feel good, then he or she is the right person.

Duties and responsibilities of a witness

The legal duty of a witness is to witness the marriage. To do this, you have to meet certain requirements in Germany. Must witnesses

  • Be 18 years old (14 years for church weddings).
  • be present in person at the wedding ceremony.
  • master the German language or have an interpreter.
  • Have valid identification documents (don't forget your ID card or passport at home!).

For a successful wedding, the role of the first bridesmaid (= the maid of honor) and the best man is very important, because they can actively support you in the preparation and the process of the celebration. In addition, most of the tasks are fun. As an engaged couple, however, make sure that you don't hog your groomsmen and bridesmaids too much. Sometimes brides overwhelm their maid of honor with ideas that are too precise or with expensive and time-consuming plans. Most groomsmen are happy to help, but you shouldn't see them as your private wedding planners, you should also give them time to celebrate.

Here are possible tasks for groomsmen:

Take care of organizational matters

Price comparisons at flower shops or DJs, communication with the wedding guests (e.g. via hotel rooms, transports from the train station to the party location etc.) or smaller errands such as handkerchiefs, aspirin, special shoes for female guests or taking care of the table decorations are typical tasks that you do the groomsmen can help well. Some couples, for example, have their friends (mostly groomsmen plus bridesmaids) give them a wedding cake.

Plan a stag or hen party

The groomsmen traditionally organize the stag party. Arrangements with the bride and groom are particularly recommended with regard to the guest list, but the day of the bachelorette party should remain a surpris Groomsmen can also plan a possible hen party  . Both are not a must, but of course often a great pleasure for the surprised. You know your friends or family members best: Think about whether the planned trips, games or bars will really appeal to the bride or groom. You are the only one who can decide whether the day will be wonderful or rather uncomfortable or even embarrassing for the engaged couple.

Shopping advisor

One of the most beautiful duties of the maid of honor is to advise the bride about her wedding dress. Men traditionally go shopping for their suit and accessories with their groomsman less often, but he, too, can be available as a critical and honest contact person. Of course, this shopping advisor function also applies to decorations or other errands. As a future bride and groom, you only have to buy the gift for the bridesmaids and groomsmen on your own.

Maintain an overview

With all the small and large errands, you quickly lose track of things - this also applies to the wedding day itself. Therefore, one of the tasks of a groomsman is to provide the couple with practical assistance. This could include, for example, waking the groom in good time, driving the bride to the hairdresser, packing the wedding rings , decorating the carriage or the car etc. It is important that you allow yourself to be drawn to the wishes of the bride and groom and simply keep all stress away from them . A list can help to keep track of the most important tasks.

If there is an unexpected minor or major disaster, it is advisable as a maid of honor to have an emergency bag with you. This should contain tools to improve make-up and hairstyle. But you should also take headache tablets, spare tights, a mirror, deodorant, chewing gum, blister plasters, etc. with you. So you are prepared for any eventuality. A list with all the telephone numbers of those involved is also advisable so that you can contact the right person immediately in the crowd.

Procedure of the wedding ceremony for groomsmen

The groomsmen sit or stand right and left next to the bride and groom during the wedding ceremony. You bring the rings with you to the registry office and under no circumstances should you forget your identification documents. At the end of the ceremony they sign the wedding certificate, otherwise they have no official duties other than handing handkerchiefs and removing the bouquet from the bride. Many groomsmen also organize the arrival of the bride and groom on the forecourt of the registry office: They hand out soap bubbles, have rice or flowers thrown, provide sparkling wine or instruct the photographer. Even the first little games like the traditional sawing of a tree trunk together sometimes have space here.

Wedding dance

The first dance of the evening traditionally belongs to the bride and groom. Then the two dance with their new in-laws and finally they ask the groomsmen before everyone else is allowed to storm the dance floor. However, this regulation is usually interpreted less strictly. So if you are an absolute dancer, you can certainly discuss this with the future wedding couple before the celebration. Ambitious groomsmen take a dance class and show all guests how standard dance works.

Wedding games and surprises

The wedding games can also be planned by the groomsmen. Of course, you don't have to come up with all the games yourself, but it is important to set a time frame and to have an eye on who's going to come and when that would be possible. In addition, the best man can reject suggestions for games in advance that he thinks is inappropriate. The same applies to surprises like kidnapping the bride or decorating the marriage bed. Some couples are very happy about it, others find it less funny.

The most important task of the groomsmen, which should not be neglected, is celebrating. With all of the duties and responsibilities you should not forget that this day comes only once. Enjoy the happiness of the bride and groom together and be happy with them. After all, the role of the best man does not end on the wedding evening, but traditionally he is the patron of the marriage of the two newlyweds. This means that in the future he should keep inquiring about the relationship between the two and even act as a mediator if there are disputes. A very meaningful tradition that can still be taken seriously today.

The best man's speech at the wedding

Don't worry, a speech doesn't have to be. If you don't think you can do it, then maybe it's better not to. But of course the bride and groom are very happy if you address a few personal words to them. A speech by the maid of honor is also possible - sometimes it is an original variant to take on this task as groomsmen together and to split up the speech. Some speakers feel safer this way.

In terms of content, you can make few mistakes in the wedding speech: Usually you thank the bride and groom on behalf of everyone for the beautiful celebration, followed by personal words that you can tailor to the bride and groom. What suits the two? Think about whether, for example, they would be happy if you told everyone about their first meeting with your partner. Funny anecdotes can be loosening up if you're the type yourself. At the end you should say your congratulations and celebrate the couple with the guests. In addition, the best man wishes everyone a nice celebration in his speech. There is no guideline on how long a groomsmen speech should be. Ask yourself honestly beforehand: Do people like to listen to you for so long or is the speech lengthy? Who likes to be in the spotlight the wedding speech shouldn't be a problem for him. Sometimes you can also see unusual variants such as a rap by the groomsmen. But this then requires special courage - and perhaps also skill.

How many groomsmen can you have?

You can now get married in Germany without a witness. Whether this is recommendable would be another question. At the registry office  no best man is compulsory, but two witnesses (one for the bride, one for the groom) are allowed to sign. In the Catholic Church there even have to be two, otherwise the church wedding does not apply before the law. If you get married in a Protestant manner, however, you no longer need any witnesses. Two witnesses of Muslim faith must be present at an Islamic wedding. It often becomes difficult for the couple when they cannot choose between several close friends. Then the number two is often not enough. Is it allowed to choose several groomsmen? Of course, theoretically you can also have several witnesses, infinitely many, who then no longer have an official function. In the registry office the number is limited to two witnesses. But here a church wedding can be the solution: In consultation with the pastor, up to four witnesses are allowed in the Catholic and Protestant churches. Those who marry in church and civil ceremony can theoretically name two witnesses for one wedding and four for the other. In this way, all good friends will find the place by your side that they deserve. However, the distribution of the tasks for the wedding preparations may then be less clear because nobody feels responsible anymore. That's why good communication helps in such a case - several witnesses also mean several shoulders to distribute the organizational tasks. This can be an advantage if you are good at delegating. Another possibility would be to name bridesmaids and groomsmen in addition to best man and maid of honor.

How do I ask my maid of honor?

Of course, you can either ask your maid of honor directly or call. But most of the time, as a bride, you have the feeling that this special moment with your best friend, sister, cousin, etc. shouldn't just be dealt with in a normal conversation or over hundreds of kilometers of telephone cables. Men are often more pragmatic. Either way, it is important to ask early enough. After all, there is nothing more terrible than that the maid of honor is on vacation at the other end of the world or has important appointments on your wedding day. In addition, it is also good for the organization of the wedding if the maid of honor is not available to help you five days before the appointment. If you want to ask your maid of honor in a way that suits the special moment,

A great invitation

Invite your future maid of honor, for example, to a self-cooked meal or take her out to the restaurant. She will surely wonder what that is about, and then you can ask your big question in peace.

A big mystery

For friends of puzzles and secrets, whose groomsmen live further away, this is the perfect option. Simply wrap your question in the form of a scratch-off picture, a puzzle or a fortune cookie and wait until your friend has nibbled off the question, put it together or rubbed it free.

A gift

There are also nice surprises for maid of honor in the form of candles, chocolates, mugs, bracelets and all other small gifts. You can get creative and do handicrafts yourself, but of course there are also wonderful gift ideas online. If you would like to remain a mystery, you can surprise your godmother with a fine fountain pen. If she then asks what she could use such a gift for, she simply replies that she will have to sign something important soon, namely your wedding certificate.

A personal letter

The nice thing about letters is that you can keep them for years. In contrast to a fleeting conversation, something written is a lasting memory for the maid of honor. Of course you can also design the letter with photos or you can give a photo album with shared pictures and the important question on the last page of the book.

A homemade surprise

Brides whose maid of honor lives near her can also surprise them with something homemade. Sometimes a cake, cup cake or muffin can also be sent if it is properly packed, but this is risky. Either you bake the text of your question in the cake, for example in the form of a solid core of the muffin. Or you write directly on the cake with icing or edible letters.

A little photo shoot

If you want to capture the exact moment of the question, you can organize a photo shoot for yourself and your girlfriend. This can be either private or professional. Here, too, you will surely encounter astonishment at first, but then the surprise for the future maid of honor is all the more beautiful.

What do I wear as a maid of honor?

There are some rules about how to dress as a maid of honor for the wedding. However, it is first of all important to always comply with the framework of the wedding ceremony. In times of rocker weddings, beach weddings or hippie weddings, it would be inappropriate to speak of a fixed dress code. Some couples choose to include this on the invitation. You should orient yourself to this first. Otherwise, the top rule is not to outshine the bride and groom with his outfit and at the same time to be festively dressed.

In church weddings, the ladies should especially consider not to be dressed too sexy. Pastel and blue tones are always recommended for weddings, whereas white is taboo as a color for the bride. Men don't go wrong with suits, shirts and ties. For women, flower prints and dots are more or less timeless. It doesn't have to be a dress either: some women feel more comfortable in a chic trouser suit. The bridesmaids are sometimes dressed in the same shade or even the exact same dress, following the American example. However, some bridal couples prefer to leave that to the individual taste of the individual. By the way, an old saying says that the groom's affair wears red at the wedding. So you should also reconsider this color choice.

The most important day in life has to be shared

Seldom does Albert Schweizer's saying apply as much as it does to a wedding:

"Happiness is the only thing that doubles when you share it."

Therefore, groomsmen are the second most important people on this day, because they are the ones who are closest to the bride and groom. In addition, they usually know both families and of course the bride and groom well enough to prevent possible discrepancies or the like. As groomsmen, it is wonderful when you can organize everything in such a way that you still have plenty of time to be happy with the two newlyweds and to spend a wonderful day together. Because like the love of the bride and groom, this day is also unique.

Checklist with the most important points for your groomsmen

Are you the best man? Are you really looking forward to this important and honorable task? Then here is a checklist with the most important points:

Before the wedding:

First of all, you should check the appointment to see if you really have the time. You may be able to request more than one day of vacation to help the bridal couple.
ID card / passport
It is very important that you check the validity of the passport and, if necessary, have it extended in good time at the municipality / passport office, especially before the school holidays you have to expect waiting times, which can take up to 4 weeks.
When buying a suit / dress and shoes, make sure that you are not fancier than the bride or groom, maybe there is also a motto to consider (e.g. traditional costume) Buy your shoes in good time, they may have to be broken in, you will spend many hours in it.
Bachelorette party
The organization of the bachelorette party is a very demanding task. The bridal couple should feel comfortable and have fun too. It's best to talk to people who are close to the two of you.
The speech
If you want to prepare a speech, pay attention to whoever wants to speak besides you, the order, the time and the duration of the speech. However, you are not required to give a speech. It also makes sense if you talk to other speakers so that nothing is told twice.
Advice on wedding dress / suit purchase
When buying a wedding dress or suit you should of course go along and advise. Your dress or suit should match the style of the bride or groom. If the bridal shop doesn't offer it by itself, you can take a bottle of sparkling wine and glasses with you to toast the successful purchase.
The organization
Help with the organization is certainly very welcome, tasks such as greeting the guests, removing the presents from the bride and groom, putting flowers in the water, etc. you can take on or delegate. Making clear arrangements is important if you take over the organization.
Save important phone numbers
Saves all the important phone numbers in the cell phone, so you don't have to search the whole location if, for example, one of the organizers is needed.

On the day of the wedding:

Wake up the bride / groom
On the morning of the wedding day you can wake the bride or groom in good time, have breakfast with him / her, help him / her to get dressed and calm down if necessary.
Pick up floral decorations
If you pick up the flower arrangements from the nursery and decorate the car, you may also be able to take the bride's bouquet and the groom's lapel bouquet with you.
Insert passport and rings
Do you have the passport and rings with you? The concept for the speech? It's best to have everything ready the evening before.

At the Registry office:

Support of the groom
While the groom is waiting for the bride, you can greet the guests with him as best man, introduce them to each other and show them the seat.
Have rings ready
Having the rings ready is your job as a best man, as a maid of honor you take the bride's bouquet from the bride so that she has her hands free to sign.
Testify / Sign
You testify to the wedding with your signature. This is your main job as best man.

Immediately after the wedding:

In the evening
It is often the case that the newly married couple withdraws at midnight, then you are their representative. Possibly. you can bring them both home or to the airport.
After the celebration
At the end of the celebration you can say goodbye to the guests and bring the presents that the newlyweds received into their apartment. If the couple wants to travel right away, they will certainly be happy if you can arrange the payment modalities for them afterwards - if not paid in advance. The restaurateur, the DJ, the service staff still have to be paid.

The time after:

If you still want to help with the process, you can for example: get photos from the photographer or bring back the rented car.
Even after the wedding, you may be available to the couple (if desired) as a confidante with advice and action
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When the first year is over, do not forget to congratulate the couple on the first wedding anniversary, with a card, in person, or with a small gift you can remember this day again.