How to Throw the Best Bachelorette Party: The Essential Guide

Planning a party to celebrate a special bride-to-be? You’ve come to the right place. We’ve rounded up everything you need to know, plus a few additional tips, so that you can plan the best bachelorette party for your girl. To make sure we didn’t miss a thing, we interviewed Joanne Barken, owner of The Bach, to get her expert advice on throwing a killer bachelorette party.

Bachelorette Party Etiquette FAQ

1. Who traditionally plans and hosts the bachelorette party?

The maid of honor and the bridesmaids typically plan the bachelorette party. The maid of honor is usually the point person. However, now that these events have become more elaborate, the bridal party usually splits up the tasks evenly.

2. Who is invited to the bachelorette party?

The guest list typically includes the maid of honor, bridesmaids, and the bride’s closest friends. It is usually a smaller guest list than that of the bridal shower. Everyone who attends the bachelorette party should be invited to the bridal shower and the wedding.

3. How much can one expect to spend if they are attending?

There’s really a range here! If the party is local it may cost around $200 to attend. If flights and hotel rooms are required and the event lasts several days, it may cost closer to $1,000-$2,000, depending on the destination.

4. How long does the party typically last?

If it’s a destination bachelorette party it typically lasts for one full weekend. If it is a local event, it’s more likely you will have one full day and night of celebrating.

5. What gifts do you bring for the bride-to-be?

Sometimes there will be a lingerie shower or some naughty gifts incorporated into the bachelorette party. Gifts for the honeymoon are also popular (think monogrammed beach bags). Oftentimes though it is more about the party favors that everyone gets. Bachelorette party survival kits are really big right now!

Top Locations for Bachelorette Parties

Joanne recommends these locations if you’re looking for a weekend getaway!
1. New York City
2. Las Vegas
3. Austin
4. Chicago
5. Nashville
6. Miami
7. New Orleans
8. Charleston
9. Los Angeles
10. Napa Valley

Fun Activities for Your Bachelorette Party

1. Is the bride-to-be a foodie? A cooking class is a fun, interactive group activity. Plus, after the class, you can all enjoy the amazing meal that you prepared together
2. If wellness is a passion, a group workout class like pilates, spin, yoga, etc., can help get the party started on a healthy and refreshed note!
3. If your bachelorette party destination is coastal or near a popular body of water, a boat cruise might be a fun way to take in the scenery in a relaxing setting. We suggest a brunch cruise with ample champagne!
4. Give the whole group a big confidence boost by scheduling an appointment at a blowout bar or nail salon. Everyone will feel radiant going into the night!
5. Enjoy some good old fashioned day drinking at a winery, distillery, or brewery! If you’re looking to do more than drink, be sure to call ahead to schedule a tour
Searching for something a little different? You can view our round-up of unconventional bachelorette party ideas here!

The Lingerie Shower

1. What’s a fun game to play during the lingerie shower?

You can ask all of the guests to bring a piece of lingerie. The bride then has to guess who gave her each piece, and when she is wrong she has to drink.

2. How much should the host spend on the decor?

They should not spend more than they are comfortable spending. After all, the bachelorette party is about spending quality time with the bride and her besties. There are also plenty of inexpensive decor options. You can DIY streamers, tissue paper flowers, etc. to brighten up the room without breaking the bank. View our round-up of bachelorette party essentials here!

3. What is the best way to set a budget for lingerie gifts?

I always tell bridesmaids to think about their total budget for being a part of the wedding. If attending the wedding itself is very costly (flights, hotel, an expensive dress), then it is reasonable to set a lower budget for gifts. cheap formal dresses online


Wedding Food Inspiration: Dessert Table Ideas

As an avid player of Candyland growing up, the dessert table is the most important element of any wedding I attend. You could argue that the choice and display of wedding treats can either make or break you big day, so take some tips from a few of our favorite dessert set-ups below. And remember, everyone deserves a cheat day at least once a week!


Relaxed and Fun Isla Mujeres Wedding

Punxsutawney Phil may have just predicted six more weeks of winter, but Angéle and Andrew’s Isla Mujeres wedding is heating things up. We love that the couple avoided any stress of not meeting the professionals for their destination wedding ahead of time by bringing down their favorite vendors from Seattle with them to Mexico. Barbie Hull and Andy Shepard ventured across the continent to capture the tropical and romantic beach wedding, including adorable moments with the couple’s son during the ceremony!
The Couple:
Angéle and Andrew
The Wedding:
Privilege Aluxes, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
The Inspiration:
Because it was destination wedding on a beach, we really wanted everything to reflect that- the decor, the vibe, our fashion, the drinks and so forth. Effortless, not stiff. Warm, not formal. Eclectic, not “perfect” though to us- it was!

The Moments:
We share the same moment — when my dad walked me down the aisle, our son ran to me from his place with Andrew to help his grandpa walk me down the rest of the way. So many tears!
The Couple Recommends:
Debra Hedeen! She took my post-baby-still-breastfeeding-bought dress and altered it as if it was made for my wedding body. She worked with me until it was perfect. And made my veil too!
Barbie Hull! from shooting our engagement photos in the middle of a fair to the wedding day to the two separate post-wedding shootings- the private catamaran and the trash the dress- she and Andy from Andy Shepard Photography were so FUN and got our vision. They were more like talented friends with really nice cameras than photographers we didn’t feel comfortable with. So much joie de vivre!
Anchored Memories! Bobby and Amy are a husband and wife team that are the best wedding videographers ever. Just like with our photographers, we felt such an ease and friendship with them. I still cry every single time I watch the video!
The photos and video were most important to us and we are so happy with who we chose. Doing a destination wedding from afar and planning it by yourself is super daunting, so taking both of these teams from home with us down is something I would recommend to any destination bride. We all got to experience it together and that definitely lent itself to their creative processes.
The Wedding Team:
Photography – Barbie Hull Photography and Andy Shepard Photography
Venue – Privilege Aluxes
Floral Design – Passion n Fleur
DJ – Discomovil Cancun
Videography – Anchored Memories
Photo Booth – Cecilia Dumas
Wedding Dress – The Dress Theory, altered by Debra Hedeen Custom Bridal
Bridal Accessories – Red Truck Designs
Bridesmaids’ Apparel – LuLu*sASOS
Groom’s Apparel – Ralph LaurenSperry
Groomsmen’s Apparel – Ralph LaurenSperry
Rings – Joseph Jewelry
Favors – Vintage Baby DollClementine Weddings
Thanks to Barbie Hull Photography for sharing Angéle and Andrew’s romantic Isla Mujeres wedding with Junebug! Planning a destination wedding? Check out these expert tips on planning your destination wedding.  


From Blogger to Bride – Before Planning a Wedding, Get Inspired!

Most people will tell you that deciding on your budget or finalizing your guest list is the first thing to do when planning a wedding. However, I couldn’t disagree more! Before you plan anything, you need to get inspired.
Getting inspired means a few different things. It can mean spending hours upon hours in our Real Weddings Gallery or it can mean figuring out what inspires you most about your big day. Before you get stressed to the max by Pinterest overload, you need to sit down and list out your wedding priorities (i.e. the things that are most important to you on your wedding day). Creating a list of priorities will help you to narrow in on your inspiration. Here is my list of priorities for my own wedding day:
1. Great food

2. A family oriented, intimate ceremony

3. Good music for dancing

And obviously,
4. Gorgeous photographs

Since my priorities include an intimate ceremony, I know that I want my wedding to be on the smaller side, say 100 guests or less. I also know that I need to budget for a top notch photographer, yummy food, and a good DJ and/or live band.
If you list out your wedding priorities, wedding planning will be easier and you will be happier come your big day! Now I know a bit more about what I am looking for when I browse the internet for inspiration, and it won’t be so overwhelming.
The next step in getting inspired is to create a more concrete vision of your wedding aesthetic. I turned to Emma Arendoski of Emmaline Bride for help. Emma recently wrote a new book titled The Inspired Wedding, and I thought reading her book may help me narrow in on my wedding’s look and feel. Emma’s book includes 7 “dream themes,” including Romantically Vintage, Farmhouse Rustic, Beach Bliss, Urban Chic, Free Spirit, Traditional, and Boho Style. Her book is also full of gorgeous wedding photos and tons of tips and advice on how to achieve your desired wedding theme. This book is perfect for the couple who is just beginning to plan their wedding.

After reading Emma’s book, I decided that Romantically Vintage fits me best. Emma’s book also helped me choose a color scheme. Since my wedding is in the fall and I love the romantic look, my colors are going to be cranberry, varying shades of gold, and dusty blue. Here is a style board I created after choosing my colors and theme. Actually, my mother specifically asked me to create this for her.
*Curating a Pinterest board or style board similar to mine will help you and others in your wedding understand your vision.